Becoming Entrefied with Patrick Hughes

ENT 85: Success Can Drive People Away

March 05, 2020 Episode 85
Becoming Entrefied with Patrick Hughes
ENT 85: Success Can Drive People Away
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Becoming Entrefied with Patrick Hughes
ENT 85: Success Can Drive People Away
Mar 05, 2020 Episode 85
Patrick Hughes

The bigger your ego, the more you turn people away. Having a big ego makes you appear arrogant and unapproachable. It’s easy to feel like a big deal when you are successful but remember that you have a long way to go.

I have had times where I try to 1 up people or make it about me because of my insecurities and ego.

Don’t let your success hurt you. By feeing that ego, you make yourself a lot more unapproachable and people will avoid you even though you are very successful. Be humble and remind yourself 

 

ACTION STEPS – Check your ego. Is it too big?

Recommended Read: The Leadership Killer: Reclaiming Humility in an Age of Arrogance

Show Notes Transcript

The bigger your ego, the more you turn people away. Having a big ego makes you appear arrogant and unapproachable. It’s easy to feel like a big deal when you are successful but remember that you have a long way to go.

I have had times where I try to 1 up people or make it about me because of my insecurities and ego.

Don’t let your success hurt you. By feeing that ego, you make yourself a lot more unapproachable and people will avoid you even though you are very successful. Be humble and remind yourself 

 

ACTION STEPS – Check your ego. Is it too big?

Recommended Read: The Leadership Killer: Reclaiming Humility in an Age of Arrogance

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Are you ready to be entre Vied? Let's break free of the life we're told to live, create freedom and well, by adding value to others. Live challenge traditions, challenge authority and get on terrified. Hey, guys. Weapon to the show. Euros. Patrick, He was here today. I hope you're ready to get on track by. Thanks for listening to show everybody out there thinks all the reviews. Go ahead, follow us. Like us. Whatever subscribe? All 27 of those steps do it. Um, the bigger your ego. I'm sorry. Kill your ego. That's what we're talking about today. Killing your ego. It needs to die. It really does. I mean, it really, really does. What is the big ego? Get you? Nothing. Did you hear that? Nothing. So the bigger ego, the more you turn people away, the more you make people not want to associate you with you not want to network with you not want to be involved with you. And that's not a good thing. That is not a good thing. So it's very important that you kill your ego and you have to kill it almost every single day. Especially after huge accomplishments. Let's say you meet the vice president. Okay? Kill you go the next day. It's because it's a pretty big deal. I mean, wow, you met Vice President Pence. Whatever. Let's say you win a $10,000 you know? Okay, don't be, You know, kill your ego. Don't think that you're on top of the world because you had a great day. I mean, you should celebrate. Yes, you should definitely celebrate. But don't begin the big head walking around looking down on people because you caught a break when they did. You know, that's really all is. Let's say your business just tripled its cells. Don't be thinking you're the greatest business owner on Earth because there's always somebody out there better than you. Having a big ego makes you appear arrogant and unapproachable. Nobody's gonna want to talk to that guy who is always boasting about what he does, how great he is. You know that. Nobody wants to hear from that guy. Nobody cares about that guy. I remember one time Jessica and I, my fiance went out to lunch are sorry. Dinner with a guy and his girlfriend. And all he did was talk about all he had, you know, his cars, his house, how much money he makes, what his job is. And it was a cool job. He was a smart guy, great guy, you know, and there's nothing wrong with that with being proud of what you have being excited. But the entire hour we sit there, he constantly was talking about himself and any conversation change. He wouldn't accept that. He would always flip it back to himself. And I'm sure we've all done that. I know I've done it. I know my biggest issue is I always like to be, like, changing the topic to myself. Sometimes maybe I'll want up somebody. Maybe I'll pretend like it's not that big of a deal. And those airways, you don't want to handle somebody else. You know, when you're when you're in a conversation, you don't want to be doing your ego out there and thinking that it's all about you and you see that a lot in sports because you'll get a really good player, go to team of really, really good players and they won't play as well because their egos get in the way and then I use in teamwork anymore and then our winning in the games because everybody there has an ego and they don't accept the other guy with the big ego either. So be careful. Make sure you kill that you go every single day. Make sure you remind yourself you're not. You know, God, you're not perfect. You're just a normal person. You may be having a lot of great luck, a lot of great success, a lot of great results. And that's awesome. You definitely want to celebrate. Definitely celebrated. Definitely tell your friends your family celebrate it. But don't always bring it back to you. Don't always make it about you. Don't be talking about it five days out of the week about how great you are, you know, celebrate. Enjoy it, move on, go to the next thing. It's easy to feel like a big deal when you're successful. It really is. But remember that you have a long ways to go and remember that after you celebrated, that's just another step down. You gotta You gotta keep going. You got to keep going forward. Don't don't just let that success get to your head and make you just become complacent and stop progressing. Don't let that happen. I have had times where I try to one up people or make it about me because of my insecurities, my ego. And that's really hard to say. It's really hard to admit and say that I mess up. I have insecurities. I mean, secure about some things. I have a big ego. Sometimes. Sometimes I, Patrick use can become arrogant. And that's not good. Hit the work on that. I have to work on that. We all need to work on that. Don't let your success hurt you. Bye. Bye. Um, by feeling fueling that ego. Jeez, man, it cannot talkto but feeling that ego. You make yourself a lot more unapproachable and people will avoid you. Even though you're very successful, they will make it. They will. They will go out of the way to avoid you. They probably won't wanna hang out with you. They won't wanna have dinners with you. They won't want to come over your house. It won't want to do anything with you because you're being very egotistic. You're being very arrogant. You're always flashing what you have. You always talking like you're better than the people you're with and that's that does not win you any friends. That does not make you a great person that makes you come off as a snobby person and you don't want to be that way. You just don't want to go through life being that way, be humble and remind yourself I'm gonna make episode on being humble here in a few days and they're kind of closely related, but I have some pretty awesome quotes coming up in that, too. But just check your ego. So today's action sip, Check your ego. Is it too big? Is it just too big right now? Did you just have, Ah, big successful Mark? Um, you know, event in your life. Did you celebrate it? If not, go celebrate. Have fun. That's not being arrogant. That's just celebrating it. But if you're constantly bringing it back up and changing it to about you, let's say somebody has a baby and you're like, Hey, guys, look at me. I'm over here doing this leadership course. What about me? I'm cool. It's not about you, man. Just let them celebrate what they're having. You celebrate what you're having and then move on. Don't keep popping in people's faces. All right, so check your ego. Is it too big? All right, thanks for. Listen to this show. Go ahead. Goto entre five dot com force Last calendar. Hop on a call with me. I'll give you some leadership tips. We'll get your business up and going on. We'll get you rolling. All right, Have a great day. Are you feeling entre fied yet? We hope so. For more information and news updates, check us out at www dot entre five dot com or contact Patrick directly on facebook dot com slash Patrick Hughes 9000
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